People make sense of their situation in different style, when a situation becomes unique it becomes a topic to be understood, It is clear that most people are single because they choose to be. They simply are not interested in being in a serious relationship at this time in their life. Others are single due to the circumstances of their lives. They may have just gotten out of a meaningful relationship or have dated relentlessly and just haven’t found someone with whom they’re truly compatible. This article isn’t to stereotype all single women or men or to put anyone in a shell. However, for people, particularly those over 30, who are puzzled with “why am I still single?”.
When it comes to dating and relationships, it’s hard not to feel that you are a victim. After all, others can be cruel; you will get hurt, and no, it isn’t always your fault. But the reality is that we hold more power over our romantic destiny than we often think. To a great degree, we create the world we live in, although we are rarely conscious of this process. We can, in fact, make a choice whether to see our fate through a victimized lens or choose to be goal-directed and take power over our lives. We benefit from focusing on what we can control and not what we can’t. We can become aware of the myriad of ways we influence the reactions we get from others, even the negative reactions. So, the question for the single person looking for love is: what are the internal challenges I need to face?
Key Reasons why people may stay single longer than they wish for
- Isolation and routine
- Low self-esteem
- Fear of competition
- Unhealthy attraction
- Defense (putting up walls)